Love for Logan
Have you heard about this story? This dear two year old, Logan, had a tragic accident with a car window. During his time in the hospital, his mother, Lisa, would post on Facebook any updates that occurred with her son while demonstrating her and her husband’s solid faith in Christ. Thousands of people began following their story and felt encouraged through Drew and Lisa’s courage and faith. Sadly, after a week without much progress, on August 24, 2017, Logan passed away.
I knew Logan quite well. In fact, my family is close friends with his parents and several members of the extended family. Because of this,it has taken me awhile to know what to post. In some ways, I just wanted to ignore it and keep posting about regular lessons. I could continue with another classroom activity or a recipe for the family. No one would really know the difference- not many people read this anyway. However, dealing with grief is a difficult thing. Ignoring the sadness won’t help. Even though this post won’t change the past, it can help honor sweet Logan and his family.
My son is only a few weeks younger than Logan. The plan was for our boys to go through life together. We had imagined teachers comment about their mischievous ways. The two were going to play basketball together, already passing the balls around in the gym after church. We had assumed they would be performing in many more Christmas pageants as little stable animals like they did the Christmas before.
It hurts when things don’t go according to your plan. It’s painful to watch dear friends go through their (and your) worst nightmare. Yet, my family’s daily life has not changed dramatically. Even through the grief, we still wake, go to work, and put both our children to bed at night. Earlier, I was chopping a watermelon up so my son would be able to eat it for the next week. It occurred to me for the one-thousandth time that these small things will always be different for Logan’s family.
My biggest question for God has been “Why them?” I feel panic moments when I think about how easily that could have been our family. Throughout the last few weeks I’ve looked at my son and tried to imagine what they might be going through. I can’t do it. It hurts too much.
We may never fully know why God took Logan away so young. However, God has been revealing Himself in small ways throughout this process. I have already seen certain broken relationships start to be restored. Others, who had seemingly drifted away from their faith, were seen in church the last few Sundays. Thousands of people followed this story and in doing so, shared hope with each other and glimpses of Christ’s love. God has been triumphant through Logan and this tragedy and will continue to work through it. Logan’s death may very well bring life to hundreds of others.
Even with that knowledge, it is not easy. After a death, especially that of a child, people often feel helpless. Nothing you do or say will bring the person back, yet, you want to do anything and everything you can to help. Someone posted this article called What You Can Do to Help a Grieving Family. It was written from a mother who also lost her son and contains ideas of what people can (and shouldn’t) do for a family who has experienced tragedy.
Logan’s parents have seen an outpouring of people’s love in many ways mentioned in the article. They continue to receive gifts, donations and prayers from people in the community as well as hundreds of miles away. Yet even with the abundance of support, I think they will always have pain – the feeling of something missing. Nothing anyone can do will fix that. However, there is still hope. Because of Christ, they have the hope of eternity. Though the time on Earth will be difficult, it will be just a blink compared to the eternity they will have with Logan in the presence of Christ.